Today, a friend of mine told me that she's seeing someone new... and someone younger. Apparently, the guy's family are used to having women who are older than their husband, so the fact that my friend was older, did not raise eyebrows.
It's good to see that my friend is all smiles and looks less stressful after her divorce. Less than a year in her marriage, distance had made her husband looking for someone else and at the same time, because of trust ,my friend gave the husband her ATM card (they were planning to move to a new house so she wanted to contribute in paying for the furniture). Expectedly, he cleaned her account. Divorce was painful for her and the fact that it took so long to end it (because it was a Muslim marriage, hence many counselling sessions to attend before the Syariah Court would grant a divorce) made it worse for her. Usually women feel the pain of divorce more than the men, especially when the men already have someone else at the back.
But now all things have changed. She's happy, looks younger and in the flirting game, and no doubt spending soo much $$ on mobile phone bills. Is it getting normal for women to be older than their male partner in Brunei now? I've seen several examples, both, friends and some family members having such relationship. Typical Chinese would frown on such relationship as it is believed that men should always be older than their wives and not the opposite.
But at the end of the day, if such couple can show people that their relationship lasts longer than the "typical" relationship, only then, traditional preception on such relationship can change peoples' traditional perception.
Neverthelss, my wise and experienced aunty always say, most of the time, its usually men who stray from their marriage vows and thats a fact...men like younger women so all women should always be prepared..... sigh...
If men cant be espected to be faithful, why then should women be faithful?... hmmm....
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